Needing Some Closure

by BooMama on 2 September 2009

in Faith,Rambling

So I’m not sure how it started, exactly, but the other day a friend of mine and I decided that we were going to have a contest to see who could come up with the holiest email closing.

This would probably be a good time to provide some background information. I do hope you’ll bear with me while I explain.

When I was in high school my parents went to a really awesome weekend retreat, and they came home with all sorts of encouraging notes from people who had also been to the retreat, and many of those notes were closed with the following words:

In Him,
Encouraging Christian’s Name

And I’ll go ahead and admit it: I was a wee big fascinated with the “In Him” sign-off. After practicing with it awhile in notes both real and imagined, I decided that I really liked working the Christian closing into my 16 year-old correspondence. For instance:

I don’t know what in the world he thinks that he’s thinking, but he’s DEFINITELY not thinking the same thing that I’m thinking. By the way, aren’t my new Reebok high tops the cutest thing you’ve ever seen? I think they are SO MAJOR.”

In Him,
Soph

Or actually it would have said “Sofa” instead of “Soph” because all my high school friends called me “Sofa,” but let’s just pretend you have no knowledge of that bit-o-information, okay?

Right after David and I got married I started teaching at a Christian school, and I noticed almost immediately that “In Him” was no longer in vogue. Oh, I mean, it was FINE, and it would certainly do in a pinch, but the closings were a bit more elaborate. All I could figure was that during the first half of my 20s, when I wasn’t paying a whole lot of attention to Things Christian, the body of Christ got together and decided to up the holy ante in their email and letter closings. So instead of just being “In Him,” people were “In His grip.” They made it clear that their existence was “By His grace,” that their words were “In His service.”

And sometimes, if the subject matter was really intense, the closing jumped up a notch to “Because of Him,” but you pretty much had to have finished seminary in order to use that one. I’m sure there were some exceptions, of course.

Anyway, it took me awhile, but eventually I managed to catch up. And by 1999, after two years of intensive study in order to reacquaint myself with the Christian closing, I was completely up-to-speed on the lingo. In fact, I may have even thrown down the “Because of His grace” gauntlet in a heartfelt letter. And while odds are that nobody on earth noticed my gauntlet throwing, I’m pretty sure that when Jesus saw me type out “Because of His grace,” he released some doves up in the heavenlies. Or maybe it was just some pigeons. But still. There’s not a doubt in my mind that He was deeply, profoundly moved.

Over the last few years I’ve done a bit of scientific research (and I think we all know that when I say “scientific research,” what I mean is “I HAVE SKIMMED AND EVEN READ SEVERAL EMAILS”), and I’ve noticed an increased use of the participle in people’s closings. I’m fairly certain this increase can be attributed at least in part to the fact that we’re doers of the Word, people. Not just hearers. Oh no. We’re doers. Please consider the following:

Following Him,
John Smith

Or:

Running with perseverance,
Mary Jones

Or even better:

Seeking His face,
Jim Jackson

The presence of the participle-driven closing (not to be be confused with the purpose-driven life) creates action (again: doers – not just hearers – doers). And let me tell you something else: you need to be on your spiritual toes when you run across a closing that starts with a participle. I mean, you’d better know that if someone closes his or her email with “Standing firm,” they’re fully anticipating that you can make the leap to the entire book of 1 Peter. Might want to keep your concordance handy, my friends.

For the last several years I haven’t actively practiced the Christian closing, mainly because I email so much that it just isn’t practical to type out an elaborate closing in every single email. And yes, I know that I could set up a signature in my email preferences, but for some reason I feel like if I do that then the next thing you know I’ll be giving myself some made-up title. And then the next thing you know I’ll be writing down “goals” and trying to “achieve some things.”

So basically what I guess I’m saying is that while I know what is widely regarded as professional, grown-up behavior, I have made a conscious choice to do the exact opposite.

Anyway, one day a couple of weeks ago my friend J and I had a PERFECTLY REVERENT discussion about some of our favorite church-related moments, and somehow the subject of email closings came up. It didn’t take long for us to decide that we needed to have a contest to see who could come up with the best, most active (DOERS. NOT HEARERS.) closing. Also, we wanted to determine once and for all which one of us is holier.

And the prize? A $25 gift card to the LifeWay store. OF COURSE.

Here is my first effort. It’s a bit rough, but I trust you’ll see the heart behind it:

Seeking Him wholeheartedly,
S.

I thought it was good, but J came back with all pistons firing:

This morning around 3:37 I was in my first hour of my quiet time in the cool refreshing morning air and I tried a new prayer position without stretching and pulled a muscle in my back.

Will you pray for me?

Praying without ceasing as to not quench His Spirit,
J.

Not only was I moved by J’s signature – I was inspired. Which is why I replied with the following:

Not quenching,
S.

Y’all have to admit that “not quenching” is gold.

But then J came back strong:

Thirsting for more,
J.

Honestly, y’all, I wondered if I was in over my head. So I thought about it, prayed about it and ultimately realized that the problem was that I’d been focusing on participles instead of focusing on – you guessed it – Him. Just raise your hand if you’ve been there, sister.

I think you’ll see the shift in my closing philosophy if you look at my final entry:

He’s changing me,
S.

Needless to say, I was humbled and honored to put the focus back where it belongs.

As for who won the contest – well, I’ll let the internet be the judge. But just know that if you need me, I’ll be ramping up for hour number four in my prayer closet, where I’ll be writing inspirational music that came to me in a vision when I was involved in an intensive seven-year study of the Psalms.

Counting it all joy,
Soph

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{ 307 comments }

Debbie September 2, 2009 at 9:34 am

Thank you for this post. It made me laugh! It is good to laugh! A lot of people use, “It’s All About Him” as a closing. (A theme at our church)

I have for sometime now used – Love and Blessings – so….

Love and Blessings – Debbie in Tennessee, and oh yeah Thanks!

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Lauren Kelly September 2, 2009 at 9:36 am

Oh, waayyyy funny!!!! I would say it’s even stevens as to who won. How can you choose between all that holiness??? haha!!! :)

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missy September 2, 2009 at 9:43 am

hilarous. i’ve pondered the need for the perfect closing in our christian sub-culture, but never with the same wit or clarity that you have. it has made me think about closings that we should use if we were going to be accurate rather than holy like…

Desperately trying to impress you,
m

OR

Screwed up AGAIN,
m

i should try it and see how people respond!

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Kim September 2, 2009 at 9:43 am

Can I just say that you are the funniest Protestant “friend” I have? Can I?

Making the sign of the cross,

Kim (Your laughing Catholic ‘friend’)

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Allison (Allie in AZ) September 2, 2009 at 9:47 am

What a scream! Thanks for the early morning laughs! It is early morning, because here in AZ it’s just 7:40 and the kids are stumbling around getting their own breakfast because I am delighting in reading your post!

I think that everyone needs Jesus to “bridge the gap” for them to reach salvation, so my fave closing is:

Grace and Peace,
Allie in AZ :)

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Takemetomaui September 2, 2009 at 9:47 am

Haha :) Funny that!

Going with the least obnoxious…

Blessings,
Lisa

Oh, and when I actually write my name with a real pen and real paper, I like to fling out my “a” and make it into a smiley face. How is that for cute?

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Davis September 2, 2009 at 9:53 am

Sofa,
You bless my soul,
With arms raised high,
davis

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Teresa September 2, 2009 at 9:55 am

Great post Sofa!

Way back, I was in school with a PK (preacher’s kid) and he signed his letters,

When the roll is called up yonder I’ll be there,

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Paula September 2, 2009 at 9:56 am

Blogging doesn’t get any better than this. Perfect way to start my day.

:o)

Running the race while resting in Him,

Paula

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Cara September 2, 2009 at 9:58 am

Hey Lisa above me (Takemetomaui) I do that too! We are just SO blessed to have our name end with a letter which when written in cursive can look like a smile. By the grace of God you know??

Sophie, you crack me up. And so do ALL the posts in comments. Quite honestly, I think they’ve got you and J both beat!

On Christ the Solid Rock I Stand, All Other Ground Is Sinking Sand.
All Other Ground Is Sinking Sand,
Cara (with a smile on the a’s tail)

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Leah September 2, 2009 at 10:09 am

Starting out my day with BooMama making me laugh out loud is wonderful! Thank you for that!

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Lauren September 2, 2009 at 10:15 am

Dear BooSofa,

In honor of your love of all things musical, I submit to you the following:

Running into Marvelous Light,
His Love Endures Forever,
His Holy Presence Living In Me,
Everybody Knows It Here But You,
There’s No Such Thing As Perfect People,

….I can’t choose a favorite so….

Love,
Lauren

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Kate September 2, 2009 at 10:20 am

Loved this entry! I enjoy your humour so much.

Delighting in the One Who delights in me,
Kate

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Lisa September 2, 2009 at 10:31 am

Laughing my head off… in Christ, because of his grace, while in his grip,…
Thanks for this!

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Kristina September 2, 2009 at 10:50 am

Oh, funny!!! I was a “Because of Him”-er back in the day…but I was 16(ish) I didnt know that it was reserved for the “holy of holies.” OOPS!!

These days, it’s a simple:
love, K

but maybe it should be:
considering it joy, K

or an even better tribute to an amazing man of God:

Out loud and on purpose,
Kristina

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Michelle September 2, 2009 at 10:59 am

Oh, I loved this! I pay attention to those things as well. And while I haven’t come up with my own ending, I enjoyed reading yours and the other ‘commenters’. :)

Trying-to-think-of-something-profoundly-Biblical-to-close-with-without-being-fake,
Michelle

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Holly @ Crownlaiddown September 2, 2009 at 11:16 am

Oh, for a thousand tongues to sing,
Holly

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Amy September 2, 2009 at 11:16 am

Ok. This has to be one of my favorite posts. Too funny!

Have you read the book “The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society?” It is a whole series of letters written by various people, one being a holier-than-thou woman. Her closing:

Yours In Christian Consternation and Concern,
Adelaide

I’ve been using it on some of my emails.

Panting after the living water,
Amy

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Dianne September 2, 2009 at 11:22 am

You make me smile, girlfriend!This is what has been on my heart to say, this summer:

Complelled by His love,

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Leslie Ruth September 2, 2009 at 11:22 am

Oh, I SOOOOO needed this today.

Pruning so the fruits may flourish,
Leslie

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Becky September 2, 2009 at 11:35 am

Being on a chuch staff I send lots of letters. This cracked me up!

On the anvil,
Becky

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Melanie September 2, 2009 at 11:40 am

Funniest post EVER. I’m going to have to link to it and refer all 9 of my readers to it.

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Roan September 2, 2009 at 11:47 am

Soph!
I am laughing my head off! You crack me up!!
Joyfully, (see if goes along with my blog title which goes along with my Scripture right under my blog title….)
Roan

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Jenn @ Casa de Castro September 2, 2009 at 11:51 am

Oh. my. goodness.

This is pure GOLD! Soph, I thought the post was grand, but these comments? They’re PLATINUM!

I have two friends with whom I email regularly. One signed emails “In His Grip” and the other signed “In His Grace.”

I, of course, couldn’t be outdone, so I started signing mine more specially as well.

Like this:

In the grip of His grace,
Jenn

Thanks to you for a fabulous post and to your readers for marvelous comments!

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cindi September 2, 2009 at 11:58 am

love this!

If my kids weren’t fighting, I could be listening for His still, small voice,
Cindi

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melinda sue September 2, 2009 at 12:09 pm

hilarious… you crack me up…

in His perfect love,
melinda

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Suzie September 2, 2009 at 12:15 pm

My favorite as always been…

Waiting for those heavenly trumpets,
Suzie

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Susan September 2, 2009 at 12:29 pm

I don’t have a clever closing but this is the funniest blog entry EVER!!! Thanks for the much needed laughs!
Susan

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Katie September 2, 2009 at 12:31 pm

You are Seinfeld but with the Holy Spirit.

In Him Creatively,

Katie

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Jenny from VA September 2, 2009 at 12:35 pm

This post is awesome. I LURVE it!

Washing the mud off from the pit,

Jenny from VA

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Jan September 2, 2009 at 12:47 pm

A missionary (to Nigeria) friend of mine always used the closure:

In His Matchless Love

I stole it from her and use it from time to time, when I don’t know how else to “close”.

In His Matchless Love!
Jan

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Lisa September 2, 2009 at 12:49 pm

Thanks for the laugh!

Broken,

Lisa

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Carly September 2, 2009 at 1:04 pm

Oh sweet Lord! I in an allergy coma this afternoon and in desperation turned to my bloggy “friends” for a mid-afternoon pick me up.

I’m now trying desperately to stiffle my giggles while Senior Management walks by my cubicle – thanks ever so much!

God bless your socks off,
Carly

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Becky September 2, 2009 at 1:05 pm

This is one of the most hilarious posts I have ever read!

I had never given this topic any thought, and I think ALOT. My thinking priorities must be out of order.

Obediently living by faith,

Becky

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melissa September 2, 2009 at 1:08 pm

you are something else. i love this post.

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Beth September 2, 2009 at 1:10 pm

So I read this post this morning and thought “I’ve never seen anyone sign an email that way!” and then I get an email from a client signed

“In the Holy Family, David.”

SO he’s like the Holy Family’s second cousin twice removed? How “in” the family is he?

I thought of you.

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Mary September 2, 2009 at 1:11 pm

Sophie — you made my day girl. Nothing better than a Christian closing — and you hit on some of the best! I tend to sign my emails w/ just M — figure people who know me have the rest.
Some days I want to sign the emails —
On the Brink of Sanity
Living & loving the Chaos that is my life
Frazzled but Fun

As for a Christian sign off — you know I love a little alliteration (or whatever this is)
Running the Race, Seeking His Face, Basking in His Grace,

That’s me! Holy girl, when I’m not nutty girl. Okay — not girl at all, but holy woman has a whole different feel to it.

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Christy September 2, 2009 at 1:12 pm

This is AWESOME. Perfectly awesome. I like to yield to the example of Paul in his epistles of the NT, and generally I use the following:
Grace and peace,
Christy

When writing to friends ‘going through some things’ or serving in the military, I must go ahead and admit to using:
Keep fighting the good fight, (sometimes abbreviated to just ‘Fight the good fight,’)
Christy

However I feel the gauntlet has been dropped, and I need to start to brainstorm some new material. For consideration:

I once was lost but now I’m found,

Greeting you with a holy kiss,

Eagerly anticipating and constantly watching and preparing for the Lord’s imminent return,

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Erin September 2, 2009 at 1:19 pm

This is awesome!

Continuing in sin so grace might abound,
Erin

p.s. my husband totally came up with that. Because I read this to him. Because you mentioned seminary, and he’s in seminary. CISSGMA, E

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April September 2, 2009 at 1:22 pm

I laughed all the way through your post. Hilarious!!!!! Love it!

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Kelli September 2, 2009 at 1:22 pm

You are hysterical. Seriously. That was too funny. Thanks for the smile today:)

And I close with a sign-off that I actually received once:

“May your eyes cry for the prize that is Christ,”

Kelli

-Oh yes, that’s a real one…

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Mrs Lemon September 2, 2009 at 1:33 pm

I thought of two more:

Counting it all as Dung,
Liz

Filling the Sea of Forgetfulness,
Liz

But Cindi’s is killing me “If my kids weren’t fighting, I could be listening for His still, small voice,”

I promise, I’m not a stalker. This is the funniest thing ever.

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Kimberly September 2, 2009 at 1:35 pm

Wiping the tears from my face…my favorite post ever. Just a week or two ago, a man sent me an email and he dared to have a Christian opening and closing! I’m kicking myself for not having printed it out and I can’t find it in my trash anymore (I’m to ashamed to admit how long I spent looking)!! He started with something very Paul-esque, “grace and peace to you my fellow sojourner in Christ” and he ended with something along the lines of, “walking in the light of His love”. (I really don’t remember the ending, I might have just made that up, it was the opener that tripped me out.)

Thanks for the awesome post!

Boosting only in the Cross while bathing in the Blood,
Your friend in Christ,
Kim

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Kimberly September 2, 2009 at 1:43 pm

Did I really type boost instead of boast? Awesome.

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Amy Beth September 2, 2009 at 1:48 pm

Great. I’m on my way to class and now all I’m gonna be thinking of it pithy email closing lines whilst I’m supposed to be taking notes on the lecture.

With sorrow (but not as much as He felt when the weight of all the world’s sins were upon His shoulders),

amy beth

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Brooke September 2, 2009 at 1:50 pm

Too cute…sorry I can’t write anything more witty…

Children are sucking the life out of me,
Brooke

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Shannon September 2, 2009 at 1:54 pm

Um, so I can’t stop reading the comments. Erin, I’m really digging “Continuing in sin so grace might abound–”

Training my children up in the way they should go while submitting to my husband and considering a field and buying it and having no fear for my household because all of them are clothed in scarlet (and by the way, also needing a nap),

Shannon

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Amber@theRunaMuck September 2, 2009 at 1:58 pm

Hilarious!

My favorite?

Selah,
Amber

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natalie witcher September 2, 2009 at 2:01 pm

So funny. I actually laughed out loud.

I have to tell you, I wrote a book (not tooting my horn…this has a point, stick with me) and I’ve struggled many-a-time about what to write when people ask me to sign it.

First of all, um, this is me, natalie, you really want me to sign this? And second, I don’t have a good salutation. I’ve tried many, and, I have to admit, have landed on the “In Him, Natalie” or “In Christ,…” but, next time I’ll shake it up a bit and maybe put,

“Yo!, Natalie” or
“Booyah! Natalie”
Maybe even the age old, “Peace” or even more holy, “Shalom”

I dunno

Confused in salutations,
Natalie

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Mother Hen September 2, 2009 at 2:06 pm

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

Now where is that fish thingy for the back of my car…

Don’t know if I’ve posted here or not, but I adore your blog. And goodness, almost wet myself on this post. Amen.

Humbly pursuing the face of Christ, the embrace of the Spirit and the manna of our Lord,

Mother Hen

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