So I’m not sure how it started, exactly, but the other day a friend of mine and I decided that we were going to have a contest to see who could come up with the holiest email closing.
This would probably be a good time to provide some background information. I do hope you’ll bear with me while I explain.
When I was in high school my parents went to a really awesome weekend retreat, and they came home with all sorts of encouraging notes from people who had also been to the retreat, and many of those notes were closed with the following words:
In Him,
Encouraging Christian’s Name
And I’ll go ahead and admit it: I was a wee big fascinated with the “In Him” sign-off. After practicing with it awhile in notes both real and imagined, I decided that I really liked working the Christian closing into my 16 year-old correspondence. For instance:
I don’t know what in the world he thinks that he’s thinking, but he’s DEFINITELY not thinking the same thing that I’m thinking. By the way, aren’t my new Reebok high tops the cutest thing you’ve ever seen? I think they are SO MAJOR.”
In Him,
Soph
Or actually it would have said “Sofa” instead of “Soph” because all my high school friends called me “Sofa,” but let’s just pretend you have no knowledge of that bit-o-information, okay?
Right after David and I got married I started teaching at a Christian school, and I noticed almost immediately that “In Him” was no longer in vogue. Oh, I mean, it was FINE, and it would certainly do in a pinch, but the closings were a bit more elaborate. All I could figure was that during the first half of my 20s, when I wasn’t paying a whole lot of attention to Things Christian, the body of Christ got together and decided to up the holy ante in their email and letter closings. So instead of just being “In Him,” people were “In His grip.” They made it clear that their existence was “By His grace,” that their words were “In His service.”
And sometimes, if the subject matter was really intense, the closing jumped up a notch to “Because of Him,” but you pretty much had to have finished seminary in order to use that one. I’m sure there were some exceptions, of course.
Anyway, it took me awhile, but eventually I managed to catch up. And by 1999, after two years of intensive study in order to reacquaint myself with the Christian closing, I was completely up-to-speed on the lingo. In fact, I may have even thrown down the “Because of His grace” gauntlet in a heartfelt letter. And while odds are that nobody on earth noticed my gauntlet throwing, I’m pretty sure that when Jesus saw me type out “Because of His grace,” he released some doves up in the heavenlies. Or maybe it was just some pigeons. But still. There’s not a doubt in my mind that He was deeply, profoundly moved.
Over the last few years I’ve done a bit of scientific research (and I think we all know that when I say “scientific research,” what I mean is “I HAVE SKIMMED AND EVEN READ SEVERAL EMAILS”), and I’ve noticed an increased use of the participle in people’s closings. I’m fairly certain this increase can be attributed at least in part to the fact that we’re doers of the Word, people. Not just hearers. Oh no. We’re doers. Please consider the following:
Following Him,
John Smith
Or:
Running with perseverance,
Mary Jones
Or even better:
Seeking His face,
Jim Jackson
The presence of the participle-driven closing (not to be be confused with the purpose-driven life) creates action (again: doers – not just hearers – doers). And let me tell you something else: you need to be on your spiritual toes when you run across a closing that starts with a participle. I mean, you’d better know that if someone closes his or her email with “Standing firm,” they’re fully anticipating that you can make the leap to the entire book of 1 Peter. Might want to keep your concordance handy, my friends.
For the last several years I haven’t actively practiced the Christian closing, mainly because I email so much that it just isn’t practical to type out an elaborate closing in every single email. And yes, I know that I could set up a signature in my email preferences, but for some reason I feel like if I do that then the next thing you know I’ll be giving myself some made-up title. And then the next thing you know I’ll be writing down “goals” and trying to “achieve some things.”
So basically what I guess I’m saying is that while I know what is widely regarded as professional, grown-up behavior, I have made a conscious choice to do the exact opposite.
Anyway, one day a couple of weeks ago my friend J and I had a PERFECTLY REVERENT discussion about some of our favorite church-related moments, and somehow the subject of email closings came up. It didn’t take long for us to decide that we needed to have a contest to see who could come up with the best, most active (DOERS. NOT HEARERS.) closing. Also, we wanted to determine once and for all which one of us is holier.
And the prize? A $25 gift card to the LifeWay store. OF COURSE.
Here is my first effort. It’s a bit rough, but I trust you’ll see the heart behind it:
Seeking Him wholeheartedly,
S.
I thought it was good, but J came back with all pistons firing:
This morning around 3:37 I was in my first hour of my quiet time in the cool refreshing morning air and I tried a new prayer position without stretching and pulled a muscle in my back.
Will you pray for me?
Praying without ceasing as to not quench His Spirit,
J.
Not only was I moved by J’s signature – I was inspired. Which is why I replied with the following:
Not quenching,
S.
Y’all have to admit that “not quenching” is gold.
But then J came back strong:
Thirsting for more,
J.
Honestly, y’all, I wondered if I was in over my head. So I thought about it, prayed about it and ultimately realized that the problem was that I’d been focusing on participles instead of focusing on – you guessed it – Him. Just raise your hand if you’ve been there, sister.
I think you’ll see the shift in my closing philosophy if you look at my final entry:
He’s changing me,
S.
Needless to say, I was humbled and honored to put the focus back where it belongs.
As for who won the contest – well, I’ll let the internet be the judge. But just know that if you need me, I’ll be ramping up for hour number four in my prayer closet, where I’ll be writing inspirational music that came to me in a vision when I was involved in an intensive seven-year study of the Psalms.
Counting it all joy,
Soph











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Ever decreasing, that HE might increase!
I SNORT laughed so loud in Subway when I read this that people turned and looked.
And then I laughed more and spewed tea across the table.
Namin’ and claimin’,
Carpool Queen
rolling with holy laughter,
Kate
PURE GOLD, Sophie!! Pure gold.
Gazing on His glory,
Jules
This post is stinking funny and so are all these comments. I love “Namin’ and claimin’.”
So. Freakin’. Awesome.
Seriously, I’m about to embarrass myself because I’m laughing so hard. There are even some tears. Totally reminded me of some cynical conversations that my roommate and I had in college. We attended a Baptist University. Where there were a lot of “In Him”s.
It’s obvious to me that you and “J” need to get to work on a script for a show about a church office. Think of it as a holy Dunder-Mifflin. And the title of the show could be one of your email closings. Wouldn’t you love to see a new program listed in the fall TV Guide called “Seeking Him?”
Awesome post!
teehee! I’m rolling on the floor! The comments are too funny– I especially like the “ever decreasing so he might increase” one… I wonder if Jesus snorts a giggle when we try to sneak this kind of stuff past Him.
Making it my ambition to lead a quiet life,
P
As a worship leader, my tip would be to go to the song lyrics! You could go with the great “doer” sign offs
Coming back to the heart of worship,
S.
Singing of His love forever,
S.
or a super-faithful sign-off
Forever God is faithful,
S.
or a medley sign-off (especially if you’re emailing Fry Daddy!)
In Christ Alone, the Solid Rock,
S.
Truly – there’s a neverending wealth of great Christian sign offs – just turn on the Christian radio station!
He Knows My Name,
Christine
Do you get extra points if your sign-off is in Latin? I’m getting that (or abbreviations of Latin phrases – less formal holiness?) from school personnel.
My mother-in-law has picked up the “One of God’s Kids” sign-off.
“In His grip” sounds scary and presumptuous to me.
Leaning on the everlasting arms and standing on the promises,
Amy
I have no words. It’s all been said. You nailed it. Perfectly.
And So, Until He Comes and Saves Me From Myself and The Mucked-Up Mess I Continually Make of Things,
Kelli
I still use “In His grip” a lot but I have also started signing off with “Blessed beyond measure” because that is truly how I feel these days!
Looking forward to His return,
Kelly
with hands lifted high,
Daniel
(you have to lean a liiiiiitle to the pentecostal side to use that one…but not too much, or you’ll end up “with face to the ground”)
HAHAHAHAHA
Laugh out loud and Amen.
No longer focusing on participles,
Gayle
BA HA HA!
you make a me laugh DAILY!!
this is awesome…
here’s how a friend signs his emails..I roll my eyes everytime i see such a thing
in the name of our lord and saviour jesus christ,
E—–
is he going to baptize me or send me a reminder of what im bringing to the class picnic? im just saying!
I am dying at this ahaha my friends and I constantly try and one up each other wht holier sign offs. My favs?
Broken bread and poured out wine for His purposes,
Lynds
Or
As the deer panteth,
Ldog
Or
My boss is a Jewish carpenter,
L
Or
Discerning His will and seeking it above all else,
Lyndsay
I had to call my pastor husband and ask what he used as a closing and laughed when he said “I don’t know it changes. I usually say ‘In Him,” or ‘In His Service.’ Why?”
Then I told him about your blog…hehehe. I am sure he will find something here he can use, lol!
Of course, now I am thoroughly intimidated so I won’t even do a close at all.
has no one seriously submitted “praying without ceasing”? or as “us alabama girls” might say…
prayin’ without ceasin’
becky
or
loadin’ it on Him
or
keepin’ near the Cross
or
yeah…i could probably keep them coming. there are some serious gems on here. this is awesome!
My husband, Daniel, and I usually read your posts out loud to each other. But he’s deployed to Iraq so I sent him this in an email. I just wish I could see his face as he reads it!
This post is completely hysterical. Really, you have outdone yourself! I’ll be watching now for holy closings :)
The comments are some of the best EVER. How did you get anything done today?!
Serving Christ by wiping many dirty bottoms,
Andrea
This was the perfect post to introduce me to your blog.
With lovely feet,
d
LOL!!!! Thank you for this, I am glad to be alone in the office because i am cracking up!!!
Giggling for His glory,
Elyse
Dear Sofar {<– how some of my acquaintances would pronounce it},
Your post lived up to the Twitter hype.
Break-dancing in the Spirit,
Robin
Thanks for the laugh this afternoon!
In the love of Christ,
Rhonda
Snorted and immediately sent to my husband who is a worship leader. His “favorite” signature is from a fellow music guy who signs his emails “BlesSings”
Fabulous post! And your readers ROCK, BooMama! (May I call you Sofa?)
Cyndi, I loved your, “If my kids weren’t fighting, I could be listening for His still, small voice”…WOW!
I think I’m going with:
Praising Him in this storm while singing of His love forever,
Melanie
Made me giggle so much thinking of the Chi Omega sign-offs.
Chi O love and mine,
Devoted Sister
LICO (which I actually needed help to understand was “Love in Chi Omega”)
and on from there.
Honestly, I never got the first one.
And some of the flowery ones in His name sound like the sign-off to advice columns instead of names but maybe because I’m a yankee and we don’t roll like that!
Loving, loving these!
How about…
Not one of THOSE Christians, or
“In the words of Proverbs 26:11, “As a dog returneth to its vomit…” I remain,” or
“Praying to tolerate you, ”
Thanks for the laughs, Boomama!
Kicking Satan in the weiner,
Tori
I had to forward this post to some old friends. Love it! And I was ROFLIHN.
Mary – the word you are looking for is assonance. Like “the fat cat sat on a hat.”
Under His wing,
Juice
Sofa, you crack me up!!!
One of the best posts I’ve read. love it.
Running with perseverance the race set before me while throwing off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles,
Ang
Sophie,
Loved, loved, loved this post and the whole concept of the Christian closure.
Casting down my golden crown upon the glassy sea,
Mark
Too funny!
Daddy’s little girl,
Abbey
My very first read of your blog and it’s incredibly funny and right on the mark.
Too many comments for me to read so I don’t kno if this is a repeat but I submit to you…
Praying without ceasing,
Jovi
SO, so funny!
Trashcan to Treasure,
Tammie
Seriously, this made my whole day! So great and funny!
We’re Presbyterians over here at the Hill house so here’s my shot…
Thankful in my total depravity that He is my Substitutionary Atonement,
Melissa
;)
Lots of snorting here! Just hilarious, BooMama, & the comments are hysterical. I really love “Continuing in sin so grace may abound,” & “My boss is a Jewish carpenter.”
Eating not the bread of idleness,
Libby
This is genius.
A friend of mine has been ending her correspondence (including e-mail):
Resting in Him,
T.
It didn’t feel like a closure that I would write, but I’ve just come out with a book about slowing down. One of the topics in the book is about learning to rest. I thought, “Dude, maybe I should steal that after all?”
But it fits her, not me. Even though I have been learning what it means to rest (and the importance of doing so), I left it for T.
Instead, I will sometimes write simply:
His,
Ann
Oh, funny. I’ve thought for quite sometime that those closings were a bit…weird. I just sign my stuff “Love, Jen” now, but for today it’s:
Laying aside every encumberance and taking up my cross,
Jen
Living quietly and minding my own business, Nell
In the midst of the start of a challenging school year at a moderate sized Christian school that got more moderate due to the economy; trying to hold down 2 or 3 or maybe about 10 different volunteer positions and to NOT grow weary of doing good. Therefore, I am…
Holding on tightly to God’s unchanging hand….
Thankful for your humor after I washed five loads of laundry and my toddler (who hasn’t taken a nap!) pooped up her back today,
Trish
You, my friend are a holy hoot.
In the Most Holy Name of Jesus My BFF,
AM
The best part was reading all the signatures in the comments–hysterical!!
Not even going to try to top the ones before,
Tab
love it.
I had a friend that suggested we just use random lines from hymns, e.g.
With a mighty triumph o’er His foes,
Daniel
or
Redeeming grace to Adam’s race,
Daniel
Daniel
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Sophie, the last 2 days have been so difficult. You blessed me with this sweet post more than you’ll ever know.
In Christian Love,
Terri
O.K., this is without a doubt one of the funniest posts I have read in a LONG time. I absolutely love it because you so clearly articulated everything I have always hated about the “Christian closing.” They kind of make my skin crawl, but then I wonder why they make my skin crawl. Aren’t I a good enough Christian? Am I really such a mess that I can’t call myself “Blessed beyond measure”? I honestly wonder these things.
What I’ve come up with is that I’m just a rebellious soul who doesn’t want to cave into the Christian subculture of email closings, and so I just sign my name. Plain and simple. No “love,” just me. I guess you get what you get with me.
Rebelliously yours,
Shelly
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